GENDER VIOLENCE IN VENEZUELAN SOCIETY (PART II)

The theme that i am going to play, surprise syrians and trojans, as i abismó to me. It is generally heard talk of domestic violence toward women, toward the weaker sex, sexual harassment in the field of labor, constituting a degree of violence toward women, but we have never heard of violence toward the man in the home.

Describe the daily in a home where violence is as difficult as be victim of it. We must never forget the role that dealing in such situations, the children. Although they are silent witnesses, are part of these verbal and sometimes physical, who will remain subject to psychological trauma, which ultimately will, without a doubt, generators of complex, linked to the effects of the various forms of neurosis, with misalignments social, causing the predisposition toward behavior of this nature.

The discussions do not destroy marriages as expresses Grisseld Lecuna Garcia in her written: "To Discuss healthily is a duty with oneself and with the couple, without offending" (*)In contrast, what is happening within the confrontations, if you can be a factor to destroy that conjugal union. In general, in the discussions of mature begins by an insignificant event which would then be garnishing with events in the past, accompanied by adjectives pejorative and discrediting, not only toward the partner; In this case the spouse, but also toward any other members of the family group linked to who is to disqualify with such expressions. From the point of view criminalistic, has been analyzed such conduct, linking it to the figure of hysteria, which is own of women, given its relationship with the "hister", This is, the uterine cavity that houses the fetus, not the man free to react in a similar way as could be done by women as such.

Such acts neurotic and hysterical, are those that obscure to individuals and left lead, until arriving at the physical assaults, not without mentioning before the disproportionate verbal attacks that are as water, which..."once poured on earth, it is impossible collect". In the discussions of partner, the "must" indicates that the questioning of behavior should be confined to the action or how to proceed from my partner and under any form or circumstance divert toward other aspects that have nothing to do with the origin of the confrontation, therefore, it runs the risk of uttering phrases broken and by other painful and offensive that leave footprint indelible, if you want perennial, Hard to forget in the course of time and that evoke at least one expects, through the Law of the association of ideas. In other words, are not the discussions which hurt, but the destructive terms that are used, whose effect is not another leave engraved on the mind, as is the case of "brickbats" and not the remaining. It must learn to discuss healthily, within a climate empathy; that is, bearing in mind that the other also owns feelings that deserve consideration that aspires to who is issuing such expressions, ignoring in any way that this is the person who makes life in common and who allegedly owes you a treatment marked by the highest consideration and estimated that in this case is not anything other than the feeling of love.

In that sense it is appropriate to recall the golden rules so that the relationship of mature go on track, designed by a famous psychologist called Joseph Chakkal Abagi:
"° Not belittle nor hurt even though you are upset.
° Speak to the conduct of the other, not to his person.
° Desahogarte at the time of the lawsuit and in private.
° Focus on a single item at a time when argue, rather than start refiriéndote to something and end up in another country.
° Does Not get to third in your marital lawsuit.
° Burning the book of outstanding accounts (those claims of the past that repeat each time they discussed).
° Listening and ponte in place of your partner, instead of being on the defensive preparing your replicas for record.
° Respects the views different even if they are wrong (your views also deserves respect even if you mistake, does not?) Out of respect must be understood the give him the right to another to disagree (and err) without being tried or disqualified ”.(*1).

In truth, we hear official in the popular slang and in some musical compositions that they (men) are not none santos, an issue to which he can give any credibility, by what unto Caesar what are Caesar, Given that Venezuela is a matriarchal society, as was possible to infer from the previous article on the "Gender Violence in Venezuelan Society" (part I) (*2), Is the case of those households fractured whose children have been abandoned or neglected by parents once occurred the separation with the consequent aftermath pertaining to the moral training and education, Arriving in many cases until an abandonment physical, in which seems easier for those irresponsible parents, confined to their children in a boarding school or simply entrust them to relatives or friends relatives, Those who by compassion or pain alien seek to contribute in any way with the maintenance of those victims. It follows that actions of this nature are no more than attitudes of philanthropic nature.

So, with the becoming official, these young people abandoned by parents, are men and women, seeking a continue life with total normalcy, inserted in a society with apparent naturalness and normalcy, trying not to disclose their crises, trauma and complex of the shortcomings occurring in a childhood filled with material deprivation, emotional, psychological and moral up.

These individuals, in the course of life wedding, procreate offspring and assume responsibilities as a good "pater familiae"; while surrounded by a handicap family, inferioridades social and economic, evoked unconsciously by the footsteps ineffaceable left by the circumstances of their own origins.

Come to suffer an education clumsy and authoritarian, creating the subsequent reaction of rebellion; root of trends to go against the rule and the rules of social treatment. In that order of ideas, it is worth noting that the shortcomings that these subjects came to suffer in its infancy, the converted into beings with.

The causes of the complex can be located:
1. In the inferiority organic.- corporal Defects, the limp, a hump, excessive, fatness, ugliness unusual. The child is believed despised, ridiculed, less than the others; then tries to simulate superiority, power and this overcompensation takes you to commit fraud or violent acts and other offenses.
2. In the social inferiority.- Can happen to the child has been lifted in home inadequate, and as they enter the society suffers from a rejection that makes you demonstrate superiority and takes you to be given importance; then looks pleasures that other enjoy easily: drinking, smoking, go to the cinema, etc. This brings you to the vagrancy and exploitation of others.
3. 3. In the inferiority economic.- This complex that created by poverty, brings the contempt of the rich and the longing for equated to these and carry the same life elegant and gastiva. The overcompensation can lead to fraud, theft, homicide, to get money, for equated to the affluent and live like them. ”(*4).

Occasionally, the disruptions of soma or of the psyche, just leave capture a dissonance apparent. To consolidate the above, and corroborate that by problems occurring in the first children of an individual, this can become your adult life in an aggressor within its subsequent life marital and domestic, incurring gender violence with the spouse or partner of life. It is not always impute guilt to the man as an alleged assailant, therefore, by way of exception, can be the case that is the women the aggressor and to understand the reasons for which engages in such conduct, is to be resorted to this type of psychological analysis, which in one way or another, tends to relate to the psicograma that made the criminologists at the time to study the causes of the commission of a punishable offense.

It is thus, which is considered that among the endogenous factors in the criminogénesis, violence is a determining factor which influences the will of the individual to incur the commission of a fact against lege, that is contrary to the law. In that way, can be considered that "the background biological" is an influential factor in the conduct marked by violence, being that factor a stimulus of organic nature to the commission of the punishable act; whereas the gender violence as a punishable offense, as stipulated in the new rules, which has sanctioned the Venezuelan State for the purposes of protect and defend the family as the basic unit of society.

In addition to all this, you can narrow that handicap family, which was the victim the individual in childhood, he internalized a psychological instability turning it into a neurotic. "The neurosis is considered a mental illness caused by a factor psychic that leads to terrible suffering, since they have given the defenses of me to give way to the anguish. The neurotic does not lose touch with reality, can be or not accompanied by symptoms.

There are two large groups of neurosis: the current, formed by traumatic situations of this or a past next and whose demonstrations are the anxiety or depression; and the biographical or historical where the conflict, born generally in childhood, develops along the life. As an expression of this type neuroses are phobias, panic disorder and hysteria.

What does seem clear is that the establishment of cultural subject can play important role in the unleashing of the conflict neurotic. Apart from the hysteria, also can be considered relevant criminological neurosis obsessive-compulsive. In her there is a fixed idea and an action compulsory for achieving it. The subject suffers from "existential anguish"; it is rebellious, innovative and wants to change the world without able to do so. The seriousness of this disease depends on the obsession that takes and the degree of compulsion that appears. criminological neurosis obsessive-compulsive. In her there is a fixed idea and an action compulsory for achieving it. But since the individual has full capacity to discern, the development of this neurosis poses some danger. A good example of it is the obsession compulsive by the cleaning". (*3)

After a brief psychological analysis of the conduct psychosocial a subject to try to understand the motivations of an attitude with trend of violence, which subsequently inflict suffering not only to the spouse but also to the progeny, it is necessary to advise not damaged the couple nor physically or verbally.

In that way, we can conclude by saying that women should be worthy exponent of delicacy and magnanimity, more not opponent of the man to demonstrate "the life of the setback'S supporters as what we are and addressing the role that falls to us in society.

(*)=Grisseld Lecuna Garcia in his written: "To Discuss healthily is a duty with oneself and with the couple, without offending" of Blogriss Blog Grisseld (*1) = Phrase taken from golden rules in your relationship as a couple of Joseph Chakkal Abagi.

(*2)= Appointment of Hanna Hernandez taken from article "Gender Violence in Venezuelan society" published in the daily Report of the economy, dated Monday 26 July 2010, p. 23.

(*3)= Criminology Juan Manuel Mazzini, Volume I, Third edition, Caracas 1981, p. 176-177.

(*4)= Course of criminology, Dr. Jose Rafael Mendoza Troconis,Second Edition, p. 88.89.

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Author: Hanna Hernandez Lárez
U. C. V. (Faculty of Political and Legal-Law school)
U. S. M ((Especialization in Port Management and Foreign Trade-Laude)
U. C (Diploma in customs and Foreign Trade- Summa Cum Laude)